A Rebuttal to the Fear of Failure
One question I get asked pretty regularly when talking to other crafters, artists, and even by my friends, is “How do you do all that?” All that. What do I do exactly? Are they asking about my blog? My craft business? The craft fairs I organize? The online classes I teach? The stores whose racks I stock with my pendants? The new crafty social club I am founding? The 2 part-time jobs I have? All of that? More? The house I keep? The garden I grow? The dogs I walk? The relationship I maintain with my husband? With my best friends? Yeah, I know I do a lot.
When someone asks me how I do it all, my stock answer is this: “I just do it.” And what do I really mean? What I mean is that it isn’t really a stock answer at all. It’s the truth.
I mean that I do things I want to have done. It’s really that simple and has no hidden meaning whatsoever.
If I want to do something, I do it.
What I’ve learned over that last year or so that this answer seems to un-nerve people. It makes them slightly uncomfortable in a way that I can see but that I don’t understand. Do I recognize what they see as a chance that I might fail? That if they tried to do it for themselves that they might fail? Aren’t I afraid of failure?
Of course I am afraid of failure.
The thing about failure is that you have to make it an option before it becomes and option. You have to define for yourself what failure is.
Do I fail when I go to a craft show and it costs me more to get there and set up than what I make back?
Do I fail when I take the time to blog and I plead for comments and no one leaves them?
Do I fail when miss a deadline, fall short on a goal, or make a bad decision?
If I never packed my car and drove to the show, I would have failed.
If I never wrote a blog post, ever, I would have failed.
If I never had a deadline to be late for, a goal set not to reach, or a decision not to make, then I would have failed.
The only failure I have defined for myself is making the mistake not to try.
Is it that bad if some one tells you no?
What happens if you never ask…
Is it that bad to loose a little money now and then?
At least you have money to loose.
Is your life going to change when you set goals, even if you know you might not reach them?
Think of all that you will learn along the way.
Yes, I am afraid to fail, but I’m more afraid of not trying.
I don’t want to live my life by playing it safe.
I don’t want to apologize to anyone for not trying.